Dating and Relationships
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We walk alongside students navigating various relational phases in college including singlehood, dating, engagement, & marriage.
If you’re single, learn how to surround yourself with people who challenge you and recognize your full potential, invest deeply in your friendships, and intentionally explore the God-given purpose for your life.
Explore the three key values of romantic relationships—purpose, healing, and oneness—and learn how navigate through questions like: How does our relationship affect who we’re becoming as individuals? How do our spiritual lives affect our life as a couple?
Talk with a chaplainPrepare for marriage by 1) building your communication skills, 2) confront issues, 3) plan for the future, 4) discover new things about yourselves, and 5) gain wisdom from another couple who has been married for a while. Register for our annual pre-martial counseling weekend: Engaged Encounter.
Learn moreFor those who are already married, is your marriage a doorway to a closer walk with God and each other? Do you need additional support to navigate through unique challenges? Chaplains, pastors, and counselors are available to help.
Find helpA New Way to Date
Engage in live face-to-face conversations with real people who share your values.
Recover From Addictions
If you would like to access accountability software such as Covenant Eyes at a discounted rate, please contact chaplain@southern.edu.
Protect Yourself & Others
Euwayne and Anna Bennett talk about how to healthy boundaries in friendships promote thriving relationships instead of “blurred lines.”
Professor Rick Norskov shares a variety of tools, including friendships, for understanding your vocational calling more clearly.
Professor Matt Tolbert takes a spiritual and psychological dive into the importance of how you view your identity.
Dr. Allen & Nicole Parker share a spiritual approach to understanding and dealing with your baggage to limit its impact on your relationships.
Pastor Anna Bennett shares how to be rooted in Jesus through personal worship.
We're Engaged! Now What?
Book Recommendations
Scroll to the link at the bottom of our page to find these books at McKee Library.
Single, Dating, Engaged, Married
This book charts a course through the four relational phases that the vast majority of human beings on the planet will pass through in their twenties: singleness, dating, engaged and married. In each of these phases, the author will look at what eternal purposes should be pursued in each stage, and how to pursue them.
Order NowThe Sacred Search: What If It's Not about Who You Marry, But Why?
This book explores the questions: What if you stopped looking for a “soul mate” and started looking for a “sole mate”—someone who will live out with you the great purpose of God? What if dating isn’t about finding “the one” but making a wise choice so you can better serve the One who loves you most?
Order NowBoundaries in Dating
Boundaries in Dating offers illuminating insights for romance that can help you grow in freedom, honesty, and self-control as you pursue a healthy dating relationship that will lead to a healthy marriage.
Order NowThe Wait: A Powerful Practice for Finding the Love of Your Life and the Life You Love
President/CEO of Franklin Entertainment and former Sony Pictures executive DeVon Franklin and award-winning actress Meagan Good share the life-changing message that waiting—rather than rushing a relationship—can help you find the person you’re meant to be with.
Order NowElephant in the Room: Sex, the Gospel, and the Church
Author Dustin Hall weaves together the inspiring truths of Bible prophecy, the gospel, and the beauty of biblical sexuality with such clarity.
Order NowThirst: Quenching Your Deepest Desire
Where does our sexual desire come from? What if I told you that most of our sexual decisions and behaviors are actually spiritual and not sexual? In this book by C. Wesley Knight, we will discover that our sexual desire actually originates from our spiritual desires for more out of life.
Order NowCaptivating: Unveiling the Mystery of a Woman's Soul
The message of Captivating is this: Your heart matters more than anything else in all creation. The desires you had as a little girl and the longings you still feel as a woman are telling you of the life God created you to live.
Order NowWild at Heart: Discovering the Secret of a Man's Soul
In this bestseller, John Eldredge calls men—and the women who love them—to discover the true secret of a man’s soul and embrace the danger, passion, and freedom God intended for every man.
Order NowRelationship Goals: How to Win at Dating, Marriage, and Sex
A candid, inspiring guide to finding lasting love and sustaining a healthy relationship by getting real about your goals—based on the viral, multi-million-view sermon series by Michael Todd about dating, marriage, and sex
Order NowFinally Free: Fighting for Purity with the Power of Grace
In Finally Free, Dr. Heath Lambert, a leader in the biblical counseling movement, lays out eight gospel-centered strategies for overcoming the deceitful lure of pornography.
Order NowUninvited: Living Loved When You Feel Less Than, Left Out, and Lonely
In Uninvited, Lysa shares her own deeply personal experiences of rejection from the perceived judgment of the perfectly toned woman one elliptical over to the incredibly painful childhood abandonment by her father. She leans in to honestly examine the roots of rejection, as well as rejection's ability to poison relationships from the inside out, including our relationship with God.
Order NowSaving Your Marriage Before It Starts: Seven Questions to Ask
This is more than a book--it's an experience, especially when you use the his/her workbooks filled with more than 40 fun exercises. Get ready for deeper intimacy with the best friend you'll ever have.
Order NowThis link takes you to the reading list on McKee Library's website
Find Belonging
Regardless of whatever relational phase you are experiencing currently, make friends and experience meaningful relationships today.